This is a sensitive topic... + new meditation
Here’s an interesting perspective on forgiveness that I came across recently, in an article titled Forgiveness Can Improve Mental and Physical Health:
“…Forgiveness can help rebuild self-esteem… “When people are beaten down by injustice, you know who they end up not liking? Themselves,” Enright says. “When you stand up to the pain of what happened to you and offer goodness to the person who hurt you, you change your view of yourself.””
“…you change your view of yourself.”
In my teachings on forgiveness, I’ve always shared why the act of forgiveness becomes an act of self-interest. And the above statement is one more reason why forgiving is solely about ourselves, and not the other person.
And there’s something I’d like to clarify with the above statement; “… when you offer goodness to the person who hurt you…” does not mean being nice to them, or letting them back in your life. But at the very core of forgiveness, there is the expansive energy of understanding, and even compassion.
Why understanding and compassion? Because we take a bird’s eye view of the situation and realize the state of mind the person had to have been in to inflict pain. Sometimes their pain could have been acute, while other times the pain could have been carried since childhood.
Another reason people do not want to forgive is because they feel they’re letting the other person off the hook. That is far from the truth.
When we forgive, we are freeing ourselves from the dark prison of their thoughts and actions. It doesn’t mean we pardon them. It simply means we remove ourselves from their internal chaos.
We are releasing ourselves from the bondages of the past.
Want to know one more imperative reason forgiveness is an act of self-interest?
Our external world is a reflection of our internal world. So if we harbor resentment, frustration, sadness or any form of negativity, we are bound to recreate scenarios with those same vibrational frequencies in other parts of our lives.
The energy we shelter within, whether in our conscious or subconscious mind, is imperative for the creation of our life.
Creation is a result of our thoughts + our emotions.
It is counter-productive to think of a beautiful relationship we desire, but still carry feelings of pain from our last relationship.
Both our thoughts and our feelings have to be in alignment for positive creation.
Otherwise, we continue to create chaos.
And what if we need to forgive ourselves?
Even if we need to forgive ourselves, we are releasing the old version of ourselves, the one who hurt, so we can make room for a wiser, more compassionate version of ourselves.
Forgiveness is a sensitive topic. But it’s one we all have to deal with, because not a single person on this planet goes through life without ever experiencing pain.
And forgiveness is a crucial step on our spiritual journey. Our peace, and our life’s potential cannot blossom if we harbor negativity from the past.
Think of negative thoughts and emotions as blocks within your heart and mind that hold you back from truly living your best life.
Want to learn more about forgiveness?
I guide you through this sensitive topic in my new three set meditation that was released on Podcast today.
This three set of meditations consists of five, ten and twenty minute versions. I suggest listening to all three because I share different information in all three. Think of them like three different meditations under the same topic.
To meditate with this series, simply search my first and last name on your free Podcast app.
And two things about these meditations:
I had originally created these for Insight Timer’s Daily Insight. So in the beginning, you’ll hear my say, “Hello, and welcome to the Daily Insight…”
The forgiveness course I mention at the end of the meditations can be found by clicking this link.
Lastly, not only is forgiveness good for your mental and spiritual well being, studies show how it is great for your physical well being, according to Johns Hopkins Medicine article titled Forgiveness: Your Health Depends on It.
The article stated:
“Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health, lowering the risk of heart attack; improving cholesterol levels and sleep; and reducing pain, blood pressure and levels of anxiety, depression and stress. And research points to an increase in the forgiveness-health connection as you age.”
Please share this blog with two people in your life who could benefit from releasing the pain in their heart, in their mind.
No one deserves to rob us of our well-being.
May we all live with freedom in our hearts, minds and lives.
Wishing you a peaceful day,